““ Empathy ’ s the remedy to pity. The 2 most effective words when we’’ re in battle: me too. ” ~ Brené Brown There is a lot power in offering yourself a voice; in deciding to utilize that voice for reality; in enlivening the tricks, judgment, and embarassment you keep concealed away. ““ Me …
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The Single Most Powerful Tool for Healing: Tell the Right Stories
TRIGGER WARNING: This post deals with an account of sexual abuse and may be triggering to some people. “Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful parts of ourselves.” ~David Richo In my mid-thirties, I had what I experienced as a breakdown. If you had asked me ten or even twenty …
Speaking Your Truth Even When It Feels Painful and Shameful
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” ~Brené Brown I was sexually assaulted during my senior year of college. Shortly after, I received a hefty check in the mail from the guy who did it as a “graduation gift.” I spent many nights tossing …
How to Get Past Blame and Shame and Strengthen Your Relationship
I used to think that if I told my wife exactly what’s wrong with her, her response would be, “Yes, I see it now! Thank you for showing me the errors of my ways.” To my surprise, that never happened. Finally, I saw that I was going about things the wrong way. Complaining, blaming, and …
Made a Big Mistake? What to Do Instead of Beating Yourself Up
“Note to self: Beating yourself up for your flaws and mistakes won’t make you perfect, and you don’t have to be. Learn, forgive yourself, and remember: We all struggle; it’s just part of being human.” ~Lori Deschene When I was in twelfth grade I took a World Issues class and learned about colonization, child soldiers, …
Everyone Has Struggles, So Don’t Stigmatize Yourself
“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” ~Brené Brown From a psychological point of view, my childhood sucked. I didn’t have many friends, I rarely left the house, I was terribly shy, and I used to get bullied a lot, both physically and mentally. My teenage years weren’t …